My Life, an Update
A few items:
Parchment and Pen: One Year Later
It has been one year (give or take) since I started the Parchment and Pen blog. Many people said “Don’t do it!” It will eat up your time. They were certainly right; It does eat up a lot of time. But I think that it has been worth it. Blogs are odd. It is a scary thing to put yourself out in the public in such a way. Sometimes you say to yourself “Why did I hit publish.” For compulsive personalities like me, blogs are dangerous. Nevertheless, when at their best, there are not many better ways of communication. Special thanks to Michael Spencer for all his support. I am not sure we would have the audience we do without him.
To all our readers: Thank you.
My Mother
I have not given much of an update on mom recently. I guess that it is one of those things that may come across as pouting, and I don’t want it to be seen as such. Mom is still the same. Two years after the stroke (this month—can you believe it has been so long?) she still can’t really speak, no walking, and has the mentality of a 5 year old at 58 (at least it seems that way most of the time).
Since she is too young to get the financial assistance for a nursing home, we divide the time between me and my sisters. That is why I moved here in Oct. I spend Fridays with her. It is “my day.” It is not really, as of yet, a burden. I enjoy spending time with her and my sister. We go to Old School Bagel in Okla City EVERY Friday at 1pm. (If you are in town, come by and see us. We sit at the booth.)
Dad is bad, but that is just dad. He needs to get mom in a nursing home, but he will still not accept this. He would have to sell his house and change his way of living in order to afford it. He won’t. Mainly he is just in denial. I don’t blame him, but I am hard on him about it. He will not listen. Hence, all of our backs are out and getting worse. Mom has gained a lot of weight. She is hard to lift and it is awkward trying to get her to the bathroom. Kristie, my sister, was rolling her down the road in the wheel chair today and my mother’s coat got caught in the chair. They were going down a hill very fast and the wheels stopped and my mother went flying out. She is OK, but my sister has cried all day about it. Sigh…
Reclaiming the Mind Ministries
We sent out a plea last week for support for Reclaiming the Mind Ministries. The response was incredible. We made up our dept in one week. This puts me in a better mood. My wife is relieved, although I have learned to keep most financial stuff to myself.Â
RMMÂ has been incorporated for two years now and I have yet to miss a payday….well, completely miss. Thank you all much for contributing. It is hard being in a ministry such as this, but I am really learning about how the Lord works—slowly, but faithfully.
I started teaching this week at Crossings Community Church. What a great group of people. I think I scared them, but hopefully in a good way. I think I scare everyone at first. The first class of Introduction to Theology is scary, but that is another story.
The Theology Program is expanding into many more churches. Our biggest problem, if you want to think of it this way, is how to moderate the growth. Rhome spends most of his time dealing with other churches, while I am the wild-eyed visionary that has 12 new ideas a week. We consider .05 of them. Buggers. (Oh, and “Buggers” is my new word).
Personal odds and ends:
- I think I love the Lord more this week than last. I hope. I sure have been talking with him a lot.
- I drink one of those Starbucks bottled coffees each day. My daughters love them. They are supposed to be able to get one every Friday for rewards for doing their chores WITHOUT BEING TOLD. They have not achieved this goal yet. I usually give in as Kristie serves as their advocate.
- We are all obsessed with American Idol around here. We talk about it every Friday over bagels. Me, my wife, and my two sisters all think Michael …. Something (can’t remember his last name—from Australia) should win, but that other guy Whatshisname that sang Billy Jean was awesome last week.
- Connection Gate, our online communications program, is due out in the next couple of months. We will see.
- Let me see if I can get some recent pics of the family.
Ok, here are the most recent pics of all of us:
My wife, Kristie. Don’t tell her I posted this.
Me and my second daughter Kylee (7 years old).
Katelynn (8 years old), by first daughter and her dog Muffin.
Will (4 years old), my first son.
And finally, Zach (1 year old), my second son.
That covers it.
One more thing. Considering my obsession with super heroes, I could not resist.

I thought that this was supposed to be secret?
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Daniel Eaton on 30 Mar 2008 at 6:22 am #
Love the family photos and the update. Zach in the sink is ADORABLE! You’ve got a lot on your plate. Thanks for reminding us so that we can remember you and yours in our prayers.
Daniel
JoanieD on 30 Mar 2008 at 6:31 am #
Great family photos, Michael! Thanks for updating us. That is so cute with Zach in the sink with all those bubbles.
My family at large is growing my leaps and bounds. One niece had her first child and two other nieces will be having their children in the summer. Another niece will be getting married and her engagement was just announced. My two stepchildren have already “completed” their families with two children each and I love them all so much.
I am sure your work, studies, and large family keep you VERY busy. Your wife also has my great respect.
It’s sad about your mom and dad. Sometime these “trials” just seem to go on way too long.
You said, “I think I love the Lord more this week than last. I hope. I sure have been talking with him a lot.” That’s great! I think it is possible that people get closer to God sometimes when they are dealing with difficult things, because they NEED God so much. At least I find it that way in my own life. Though I have to say, I would LOVE to know what it is like to just have a relaxed, happy little life. My sisters’ lives are more that way and I think they find it odd that I “deal” with spiritual issues at all. They don’t know the half of it, but they do know that once in a while I am reading a book by some bishop or another. So that they don’t “worry” about me becoming a religious “nut” (my family would HATE that) I say, “I like to read a serious book in between my lighter reading.”
Joanie D.
JeannieM on 30 Mar 2008 at 9:07 am #
Michael, your family is beautiful. My children are 21, 19, 16, 11, 7, 4 ( all girls except for my 11 year old). My 19 year old has her first boyfriend, since my 21 year old has never dated, and my 16 year old has certainly not, this is new for me. I haven’t met him yet. Help!!!!!!!!!!! I have given her careful advice about not rushing into anything, but at this age we are walking on thin ice. She trusts me, though. I guess I had better start wearing my knees out.
JeannieM on 30 Mar 2008 at 9:50 am #
Bat Cave……….wow! Wonder if you can ride in the Bat mobile?
I feel sad for what happend to your sister, Kristie; but sometimes things like that just happen. The other night I forgot to put the baby gate at the top of the stair case, my little girls’room is just right in front of it. My seven year old has been waking up in the night since she was born- sometimes several times. Well, the other night she woke up once, I went to see her, and left the door open- I usually close it. The gate wasn’t in place, I heard her wake up a second time and then I heard her falling down the stairs……….I don’t need to explain how scared I was. Fortunately she is ok. If she would have been seriously injured, I would never have forgiven myself.
It is wonderful that you are all taking care of your mother. It must be really difficult when you see a parent become so helpless, and it must be exhausting also- emotionally and phyically. I lost my father some years ago to cancer, although we were not at all close (he was very distant), it was hard to see him go. Sometimes I dream about him. The last time I saw him, he was looking at me in such a sad way, I wanted to take his hand, and tell him that I loved him- I didn’t ( we were just so distant). I still regret it.
Michelle on 30 Mar 2008 at 10:08 am #
Hey, Mike. You might want to look up the etymology of “buggers” - having spent time in England, it’s not thought of as an appropriate term for most to use - quite offensive, in fact. Almost like using the ‘f-word.’
Beautiful family, BTW.
Lisa S. on 30 Mar 2008 at 10:25 am #
Your kids are adorable!! Mine are of similar ages, 7, 3 and 18 months, so my prayers go out for your lovely wife as well! These are some exhausting, but rewarding years, aren’t they?
I want you to know that so many of us pray for you regularly. You are a good witness to the faithfulness and enduring love of God in the midst of horrible circumstances. So thanks for opening up to us.
Your ministry is having an impact, Michael. You probably have no idea. For example, I pass things along that I learn to my Bible study, they share with others… there is certainly a ripple effect. I love to see the light bulb go off over their heads when I talk about something I learned in the TTP program. So I also pray that this ministry will continue to grow. Thanks to you and Rhome, and your entire staff. The Lord was so gracious to lead me to your classes! So keep dreaming big!
P.S. My vote is for David Cook to win Idol ;-).
Alyssa B-D on 30 Mar 2008 at 10:35 am #
1. You have a BEAUTIFUL family! I would love to “hear” from your wife on the blog once in a while. Would she be up for that?
2. Can you tell my husband how great it is to have 4 kids, please?
I wanted 4, he wanted 2 so we’re planning on 3. But I’m still hoping I can convince him.
3. I’m praying for you, too. And your family — kids, wife, mom, dad and sister.
4. Seriously, major impact from this ministry. My husband is still finishing Intro to Theology, I started Bibliology and Hermeneutics yesterday, and I’m trying to get our church to consider buying the courses. I’m learning so much! And several people in our small group have expressed interest, too. Thank you for all you do.
–Alyssa
Truth Unites... and Divides on 30 Mar 2008 at 11:06 am #
Very nice family pics! Although I would have consulted with my wife about the wisdom of posting any pics (especially hers!) on the Worldwide Web.
“Special thanks to Michael Spencer for all his support.”
Okay.
steve moore on 30 Mar 2008 at 12:32 pm #
Michael,
Great photos, thanks for sharing.
btw, good friend of mine grew up in Bat Cave. It’s an interesting place to go with an interesting name.
Encouraged, challenged, and sharpened by the blog. Thanks,
-steve
Tyler on 30 Mar 2008 at 2:19 pm #
I’d simply like to echo most of what has been said: you have a beautiful family, an obviously anointed and effective ministry, and I’ll continue in prayer for both. God is so good!
-Tyler
Lisa R on 30 Mar 2008 at 2:23 pm #
Hey Michael,
I for one am truly grateful that you put yourself out there the way you have for it really encouraged a level of transparency in my DTS application that I don’t think I would have done otherwise. Especially considering the desire to look christianly in these type endeavors, I had to admit that no I haven’t always been but here is what God has done and here’s how I want to use it to help others. So thanks!
Regarding the situation with your parents, its tough I know. I took care of my late husband for 5 years during his illness with kidney failure and lupus. There were peaks and valleys of doing ok to repeated hospital visits. He was also a very disagreeable person and was often harsh with me. The last year he lived was tough as he required much assistance to do just about anything.
But God was in it all the way and definately working some stuff out in me. For that I am grateful.
Hang in there and consider that He has a purpose though we often can’t quite figure out what that is. Sometimes is just to learn how to depend on Him.
Oh and I echo what others have said about the family pics…ADORABLE!
Cadis on 30 Mar 2008 at 4:02 pm #
It’s nice to know some personal things of the people we talk to via a sometimes cold medium, the computer. You have a beautiful wife and family. I know you don’t want pity but I feel I have to say that I’m sorry about your mom’s condition, because I am sorry
C Michael Patton on 30 Mar 2008 at 9:01 pm #
Thanks so much for the comments and encouragment folks. Y’all are great.
Kristie would not be too excited to post. If she ever decides to, I will put it up (after I moderate it and make myself look better!)
Alyssa, not sure how much influence I would have on your hubbie, but I can say that once you have a child you don’t know how your could ever live without them.
BTW: We planned on 1, got 4. I am pretty sure we are done.
JohnT3 on 31 Mar 2008 at 8:46 am #
OK Michael,
Since the bat cave is in play, were you doing your best Christian Bale expression in the photo with your daughter?
Brandon Routh will be upset
Jessica H on 31 Mar 2008 at 10:00 pm #
Thanks for the update! Sounds like you have so much going on right now. I am sorry about your mother, but I commend you for taking care of her. She is blessed to have a such a faithful son. Know that the Lord uses you and this blog greatly. BTW - Your children are precious!
From The Balcony on 31 Mar 2008 at 10:03 pm #
Michael
1. Beautiful wife!
2. Beautiful children!
3. The Starbucks will kill ya….
4. We’ll keep praying for your parents. What a blessing you are to them - and your sister also.
C Michael Patton on 31 Mar 2008 at 10:05 pm #
Thanks to you both.
TonyF on 01 Apr 2008 at 2:33 pm #
Only a year? I thought the wisdom shining through indicated a long period of graft and polishing. Bless you for your clarity and for helping me think through things. I’m older than your parents and my sons are 35, 34 and 29. Delightful at this age, too. Please keep blogging. (I’d second the idea of checking the use of b**gers. It is definitely not polite here in UK, even though the flow of bad language across the Atlantic in US films and TV programs has affected our young people. One of the US’s sorrier exports.)
Love and peace.
Ruth Tucker on 01 Apr 2008 at 8:47 pm #
Thanks for keeping us all informed, Michael. We love you!
C Michael Patton on 01 Apr 2008 at 10:36 pm #
Thanks Ruth and Tony. No more Bugs I guess Tony!